Fruit of the Spirit

Bubblegum, John Piper, and Self-Control

I was watching a video of John Piper once, and he was talking about bubblegum.

To be more precise, he was talking about self-control, and he illustrated it with bubblegum. He candidly admitted that he can't have whole packs of gum around him. Otherwise, he will eat them all in one sitting. He'll pop piece after piece  and then boom, the gum's gone.

So he promotes self-control in his life by not keeping whole packs of gum around.

Self-control is a slippery subject. Every single human being struggles with it, a universal sickness of not knowing when enough is enough. We tend to lean into excess in so many areas  food, money, words. Instead of controlling ourselves, we indulge them  recklessly, sloppily, carelessly, and dangerously.

There's a reason that Solomon writes in Proverbs: "A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls." A lack of self-control leaves us spiritually defenseless. It reveals our weakness.

Self-control happens when we master our flesh and wrestle it into submission to God. Self-indulgence happens when we give in to the flesh and let it master us. Self-control is caring for our bodies, minds, and souls. Self-indulgence is poisoning them.

Self-control, though, is not a Spartan existence of bare necessities. There is space and time in life for feasting and a kind of joyful, God-honoring indulgence. But there is no time in life for carelessness or selfishness. There is no time for losing control and giving into the flesh.

Starving self-indulgence then is the key to gaining control. And we can only do that by the power of the Spirit. He is the one who empowers us to produce any spiritual fruit  love, joy, peace, patience, and certainly self-control.

Think about it. Before we were saved, we had no desire or reason for self-control. We were slaves to ourselves anyway, so obeying them was our primary passion. But now, our bodies, minds, and hearts aren't our own. We've been bought with a price. We now fight against our flesh to honor our true Master. We sacrifice indulgence for service.

What are the areas in your life that you struggle for control in? Where are the places you find yourself defenseless and overindulgent? Is it bubblegum? Buying clothes? Social media? Sweets? Find it – and cut it off. Self-control is serious business. The health of our souls is at stake, the fruit of our Christian lives. Rely daily on the Spirit to kill self-indulgence and chase self-control.

And then you'll be truly strong.

Cowper, God, and Poetry: Part 3

Apparently Cowper saw a desperate problem in his time that still pervades our society today - an abuse of the gospel and the grace that it gives. People claim to love the Word of God, sing it, read it, and even preach it, but their hearts are far from it. Their hypocrisy struck Cowper and out of his musings came his poem, Abuse of the Gospel.

Too many, Lord, abuse Thy grace
In this licentious day,
And while they boast they see Thy face,
They turn their own away.

Thy book displays a gracious light
That can the blind restore;
But these are dazzled by the sight,
And blinded still the more. 


The format of the poem is a prayer, a mourning cry to God. Cowper begins with highlighting the hypocrisy of the day and the licentiousness, or lawlessness, that abounds. People claim to love the law of God but are not constrained by it. They say that they see God's face, but they're really turning "their own away." The second stanza is a picture of the work of the Word of God, using this metaphor of light. The Word displays a light that can both transform and blind, and you can see Cowper's literary skill come out. It is a light that transforms the blind but blinds those who think they're transformed. The power is not in the interpretation of the Word, insists Cowper, but the Word itself.

The pardon such presume upon,
They do not beg but steal;
And when they plead it at Thy throne,
Oh! where's the Spirit's seal?

Was it for this, ye lawless tribe,
The dear Redeemer bled?
Is this the grace the saints imbibe
From Christ the living head? 

Next Cowper paints a picture of the hypocrites approaching God with their stolen grace, a badly disfigured replica. You get a taste of Matthew 7:23 here, when the self-deceived try to shoulder their way into the Kingdom with good deeds, and Jesus says to them, "I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness." What perhaps may seem cold is really just justice, though a painful justice, the result of a life wasted on selfish pursuits.

But then in Stanza 4, you get a beautiful picture of grace. The truly saved are the "lawless tribe" but have been saved by the Redeemer's blood. And we absorb "grace/From Christ the living head." Left to our own vanity and pride, we will deceive ourselves by our hypocrisy, but when Christ redeems a soul, grace is imbibed.

Ah, Lord, we know Thy chosen few
Are fed with heavenly fare;
But these, -- the wretched husks they chew,
Proclaim them what they are.

The liberty our hearts implore
Is not to live in sin;
But still to wait at Wisdom's door,
Till Mercy calls us in.

Now Cowper appears to take a spin on another well-known passage, the "you will know a tree by its fruit" from Matthew 12:33, except he uses what they eat instead of what they bloom. Their heart's loyalty is shown pretty evidently from what overflows out of their heart, he says. Do they feast on the "heavenly fare" or are they content to chew "the wretched husks"? Do their deeds bear good fruit or rotten fruit?

Cowper ends the poem with a call to holy living, to forsake sin, to embrace wisdom, and to wait eagerly for the final call of mercy. At the beginning of the stanza, Cowper highlights what the power is that gives us strength to do those things - "the liberty of our hearts," or the freedom in Christ.

This poem may seem tough and offensive and cold and loveless, but I plead with you to read it again and see that it's not. This is Cowper's prayer, and my guess is that it hurt him just as much to write it as it does us to read it. For it's a dark commentary on the times we live in and the sin that abounds. Let this be our wake-up call to never forsake preaching the gospel, loving, telling, showing, doing, being - in everything. Let no one say to us, "You left me deceived," so that Christ will say to them, "I never knew you." 

Paving, Produce and Patience

It's been a hectic day - even though all I've done is shop. Everywhere I went seemed to be busy, crammed with cars and people and shopping carts. It's been a good day for some lessons in patience.

It all started this morning when Mom, Travis and I went out to get a birthday present for a friend of mine and for Travis to spend some of his birthday money. It was only ten minutes from home when we hit it. Construction. In Nova Scotia, summer is practically synonymous with orange construction signs - by the mall, on the highway, on the back roads, seemingly everywhere. And for the last few weeks, crews have been working on paving the road we drive down every day, the road we cannot detour around. That means we get stopped - a lot. This morning was no exception. This was the first lesson in patience.

Then we went shopping, to the grocery store and the book store and the toy store and then ending at Wal-Mart with its brand-new produce section. Mom attests that this was the busiest she had ever seen the store, even moreso than Christmas. The place was chaotic, the produce section psychotic. There were people everywhere! The best part was when we had to go to the hardware section to pick up spackle for Dad; it was the quietest part of the store! But when we had to go back to the produce section to pick up some store-made pizza - this was the second lesson in patience.

Patience is a virtue is one of Mom's favourite mantras. And it's true. But it's also hard. As I was thinking about this very thing, I found myself going back to Galatians 5:22 to talk about patience, where it's listed as a fruit of the spirit, and I thought about how we as the Christian culture often extol patience, which is absolutely right I may add. But often we don't look a few verses before Galatians 5:22, at what comes before this list of Christian fruit.
"Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." ~ Galatians 5:19-21
Impurity. Idolatry. Enmity. Strife. Jealousy. Fits of anger. Uh-huh. I probably committed all those today, just in my impatience. Every time I lost my patience, I was reveling in works of the flesh, not in fruit of the Spirit. I was choosing sin over godliness, selfishness over worship. Extolling patience is good and necessary, but showing impatience for what it truly is is also necessary sometimes. For in seeing the horror of the bad, you see the virtue in the good.

So between the paving and the produce and everything in between today, I've learned quite a bit about patience. Now if this post would just hurry up and publish, I can start applying it ...

The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 13: Love

I love my mom. I love my dad. I love my brother and my grandparents. I love my friends. I love the people who love me, the people who return my kindness with kindness of their own. This is an easy love. A love that requires no effort on my part to give. And boy, am I glad that that was the love that Paul wrote about in Galatians 5:22! I mean, whew! We're lucky that when Paul said loving people is a fruit of the Spirit, what he meant was: you only have to love those who love you back.

Okay, that was fun. Fun, but depressingly fictional. Why? Because when Paul listed "love" among the fruits of the Spirit, he did not mean: only love those who love you. In fact, his definition was actually the opposite. When he told us to love people, he was talking about the same people that Jesus talked about.

So whom did Jesus say to love? In a nutshell - everybody! But to narrow it down a bit: "But I [Jesus] say to you, 'Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.'" Matthew 5:44

Ouch. Yes, that's my first reaction after reading that verse. When we hear the word "love," how often do we think, "Oh yeah, love, no problem! I'm a very loving person! I love my parents, my kids and/or siblings, my friends, most of my co-workers. I love everybody ... mostly! And that's enough for me!" But Jesus said that a truly loving person loves everybody, including especially our enemies. He said in Matthew 5:46, "For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?" Sticking to only a "safe love" does not make us loving people. As Jesus said, "Don't even tax collectors (or dishonest, notoriously nasty people) do the same thing?" It's safe and easy to love those who love us. But it's a radical love that loves not just the nice people, but the nasty people too.

Okay, so it's all very well and good to say that we're supposed to love our enemies, but practically, what does that mean? First thing first is that we have to define this radical love to know how to love our enemies. This love is not a feeling, an emotion that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, as society seems to think. It's an action. This is not just a, "Oh yeah, I'll say that I love my enemies, but that's it," kind of love. For example, if my mom said that she loved me but never took the time to speak to me, to do things for me, to even give me a hug, it'd be starkly obvious that she didn't love me. Likewise, loving our enemies means that we first show that love in actions, whether it's speaking a kind word to them or making them a "get well" card or even sitting down and talking to them. We find out the second thing love means by looking at what it's linked to in Matthew 5:44. Jesus said, "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." Love ... and pray. So loving our enemies and praying for them go hand in hand. We love them by praying for them (for their heart, for their lives, for the Lord to bring them closer to Himself). Loving our enemies all comes down to acting out our love and praying for our enemies in love. 

Lastly, why do we love our enemies? It's simple: "We love because He first loved us." (1 John 4:19) Who's that "He"? God. We love because "...God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8) We love because we follow the example of True Love, the Ultimate Sacrifice, Jesus Christ' death for us. And that's why we not only love, but why we seek to bear all of the fruits of the Spirit. It's all because of Jesus Christ that we can have life in the Spirit and seek to bear His fruit.

The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 12: Peace

On September 21, people all over the world celebrate the International Day of Peace, a holiday dedicated to seeing our world grow more peaceful. The holiday was created by the United Nations and first celebrated in 1981. Now this is a fine endeavor, but..... there's a problem with this International Day of Peace. The problem is that this holiday is celebrating a man-made peace. This is a peace that is not the same peace that Paul wrote about in Galatians 5:22. Let me explain ...

The World's Peace

This peace happens only in the calm. It's the peace that a young lady spoke of last Friday night when the teacher asked what peace is. Trying to gather her thoughts, she stammered, "It's a - you know - calm peace. It's when everything's quiet. Yeah, when everything's quiet you can have peace." This young lady echoed exactly what the world says - you can only have peace when life's quiet. Peace is when there's no wars going on. Peace is when everyone's out of the house and you're alone. Peace is sailing on calm waters. The world says that as soon as trouble arises, any chance of peace vanishes. Wikipedia defines peace as, "a state of harmony characterized by the lack of violent conflict." According to Wikipedia, peace is when there's no violence taking place, no interruptions, or concerns or problems. This is the world's peace - a peace that takes place only in the quiet.

True Peace

So what's the peace that Paul was taking about in Galatians 5:22-23? It's the pure opposite of the world's peace. This is a peace that happens, yes, in calm times, but also in crazy times! It's a peace that you have in the hectic times. It's a peace that carries you through stormy seas. When the rain's pouring and the wind's thrashing and the crashing waves batter the boat, you have this peace. When wars take place, and death and pain occur, you have this peace. When your house is filled to the brim with arguing siblings and frustrated parents and tired grandparents and you feel like your ear drums are about to explode, you can have this peace. And why? Because this is a peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). This is the peace of God, true peace. This is the peace that we get by placing our hope in Christ, by not focusing on our problem-filled world, but on our eternal home, heaven. We get this peace by resting solely in our sovereign Lord. This is a peace that takes place in the calm and in the storm. Peace that takes place in the heat of battle and when the war's over. Peace that takes place in an empty house and a full house. This is true peace - peace that doesn't occur just when life's quiet, but at every moment during our chaotic lives. We can rest in our omnipotent Lord and have true peace. 

So let's pray along with David in Psalm 29:11, "May the Lord give strength to his people! May the Lord bless his people with peace!"

The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 11: Gentleness



But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control; against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23

Dictionary.com defines gentleness as simply: “not ... violent.” But what about biblical gentleness? Was Paul just talking about not being violent? Though not being violent is a part of gentleness, it does not encompass the full meaning of true, biblical gentleness. No, this gentleness is a kind of gentleness that shines through your speech, that shines through your actions, and shines through your spirit. Practically, though, what does this mean?
  • You're gentle in your spirit. We hear of “a spirit of gentleness” a few times in Scripture. In 1 Corinthians 4:21, Paul writes to the Corinthian church, “Shall I come to you with a rod, or with love in a spirit of gentleness?” When Paul talked about a spirit of gentleness, he meant a spirit (or an attitude or mannerism) that is not harsh. A spirit that is not brash, a spirit that is loving, and a spirit that is soft.
  • You're gentle in your speech. Solomon wisely sums this up in Proverbs 15:1,  "A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath. You have the power to stir up wrath with your words, or you have the power to be gentle and turn away anger. When strife and anger come a'knocking, what do you do? Do you turn them away with your gentleness, or do you welcome them into your life? Do you stir up wrath with your words? Do you find yourself always arguing or starting frustrating or angering conversations? I know I do sometimes. But we've got to turn away from that, by combating anger with gentle speech. 
  • You're gentle in your actions. In Titus 3:1-2, Paul writes, “Remind them ... to speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.” Did you catch the “to be gentle”? I don't know how much you know about the English language, but "to be" is a verb, thus "to be gentle" is the act of being gentle. So how do we practice that? By not acting violently, by not acting cruelly or unkindly, by not acting angrily, and by not acting bitterly.
Gentleness is one of those fruits of the Spirit that is often misunderstood, but it's a fruit that is necessary in every Christian's life.

Blessed are the gentle, because they will inherit the earth.” Matthew 5:5

The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 10: Faithfulness

A special mother/daughter post today:

In part one of our mini-series on Faith, we looked at Hebrews 11 and the great men and women of the faith. In part two, we looked a little closer at Noah and Abraham. Now we are going to look even closer...at ourselves. Will we be considered great men and women of faith? Does our life demonstrate faith in Jesus Christ? Does our life show that we have been willing to do whatever He asks, even if our life is turned upside down and we are mocked? Does our life show that He is first priority, and that we will follow Him wherever He leads us, even if it is out of our comfort zone to strange and scary places? Does our life show a faith that is real? A faith that is constantly played out in our day to day life? Will we be considered great men and women of faith?

In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one.” Ephesians 6:16

The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 9: Faithfulness

Welcome to part nine of this series on the fruit of the Spirit. If you remember my previous post, I began a mini series within "The Spiritual Fruit Bowl" on faithfulness. Here's a quick review: We first looked at what faith is. "Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. For by it the people of old received their commendation. By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things that are visible." (Hebrews 11:1-3) We then looked at Hebrews 11. Now we're going to go a bit more in depth into seeing this faith lived out practically in people's lives.

  • "By faith Noah, being warned by God concerning events as yet unseen, in reverent fear constructed an ark for the saving of his household. By this he condemned the world and became an heir of the righteousness that comes by faith." (Hebrews 11:7) Noah is a prime example of faith! Despite the mocking of others, the fact that no worldwide flood had ever occurred before, and that it took a lot of work to build an ark, Noah persevered because he had faith in the Lord and His word. The Lord told Noah to build an ark because the rain was a'comin,' so Noah did. He had no proof that the biggest downpour mankind had ever, and would ever, see was about to take place. All he had was the Word of the Lord. And Noah faithfully set his hand to the task the Lord instructed him to do. Noah knew that if the Lord said something was going to happen, you could bet that it was going to happen. But Noah had to step out in faith and obedience.
  • "By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to a place that he was to receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going." (Hebrews 11:8) Abraham gets the most credit in Hebrews 11. He gets nearly eight verses! The author of Hebrews wants to make sure that we understand Abraham's faith. He highlights his faith to follow God despite the fact that he had no idea where God was leading (vs. 8), he highlights how Abraham continued to follow God to a foreign land and live in tents among a people he didn't know (vs. 9), he highlights Abraham's faith in keeping his eyes focused on heaven (vs. 10), and he highlights Abraham's faith in his willingness to sacrifice his only son at the command of the Lord (vs. 17-19). Yes, Abraham messed up and forgot about God at times, but having faith in God is not just a one-day event; it's a life-long commitment. So that's why, at the end of the day, Abraham clung to his faith in the Lord, just like Noah.
There's so many more faith warriors to cover here in Hebrews 11, so stay tuned for part two of faithfulness!

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control; against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

    The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 8: Faithfulness

    Welcome to part eight of this series on the fruit of the Spirit. Today's fruit is faithfulness, or as our HCSB friends simply translate it, faith. But before I talk about faith, I want to let the Word of God speak on this subject for itself. Here's the famed "Faith Chapter," Hebrews 11, which in the next few days, I'll talk about. So grab a cold drink, curl up on a patio chair and discover the definition of faith, some people who lived out the definition of faith, and why these people are included in this special chapter!

    "Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. For by it the people of old received their commendation. By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things that are visible. By faith Abel offered to God a more acceptable sacrifice than Cain, through which he was commended as righteous, God commending him by accepting his gifts. And through his faith, though he died, he still speaks. By faith Enoch was taken up so that he should not see death, and he was not found, because God had taken him. Now before he was taken he was commended as having pleased God. And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him. By faith Noah, being warned by God concerning events as yet unseen, in reverent fear constructed an ark for the saving of his household. By this he condemned the world and became an heir of the righteousness that comes by faith. By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to a place that he was to receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going. By faith he went to live in the land of promise, as in a foreign land, living in tents with Isaac and Jacob, heirs with him of the same promise. For he was looking forward to the city that has foundations, whose designer and builder is God. By faith Sarah herself received power to conceive, even when she was past the age, since she considered him faithful who had promised. Therefore from one man, and him as good as dead, were born descendants as many as the stars of heaven and as many as the innumerable grains of sand by the seashore. These all died in faith, not having received the things promised, but having seen them and greeted them from afar, and having acknowledged that they were strangers and exiles on the earth. For people who speak thus make it clear that they are seeking a homeland. If they had been thinking of that land from which they had gone out, they would have had opportunity to return. But as it is, they desire a better country, that is, a heavenly one. Therefore God is not ashamed to be called their God, for he has prepared for them a city. By faith Abraham, when he was tested, offered up Isaac, and he who had received the promises was in the act of offering up his only son, of whom it was said, “Through Isaac shall your offspring be named.” He considered that God was able even to raise him from the dead, from which, figuratively speaking, he did receive him back. By faith Isaac invoked future blessings on Jacob and Esau. By faith Jacob, when dying, blessed each of the sons of Joseph, bowing in worship over the head of his staff. By faith Joseph, at the end of his life, made mention of the exodus of the Israelites and gave directions concerning his bones. By faith Moses, when he was born, was hidden for three months by his parents, because they saw that the child was beautiful, and they were not afraid of the king's edict. By faith Moses, when he was grown up, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh's daughter, choosing rather to be mistreated with the people of God than to enjoy the fleeting pleasures of sin. He considered the reproach of Christ greater wealth than the treasures of Egypt, for he was looking to the reward. By faith he left Egypt, not being afraid of the anger of the king, for he endured as seeing him who is invisible. By faith he kept the Passover and sprinkled the blood, so that the Destroyer of the firstborn might not touch them. By faith the people crossed the Red Sea as on dry land, but the Egyptians, when they attempted to do the same, were drowned. By faith the walls of Jericho fell down after they had been encircled for seven days. By faith Rahab the prostitute did not perish with those who were disobedient, because she had given a friendly welcome to the spies. And what more shall I say? For time would fail me to tell of Gideon, Barak, Samson, Jephthah, of David and Samuel and the prophets— who through faith conquered kingdoms, enforced justice, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, quenched the power of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, were made strong out of weakness, became mighty in war, put foreign armies to flight. Women received back their dead by resurrection. Some were tortured, refusing to accept release, so that they might rise again to a better life. Others suffered mocking and flogging, and even chains and imprisonment. They were stoned, they were sawn in two, they were killed with the sword. They went about in skins of sheep and goats, destitute, afflicted, mistreated— of whom the world was not worthy—wandering about in deserts and mountains, and in dens and caves of the earth. And all these, though commended through their faith, did not receive what was promised, since God had provided something better for us, that apart from us they should not be made perfect." (Hebrews 11)

    The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 7: Goodness

    Good is a word used quite callously in today's day and age. It's used for just about anything. It's used to refer to behavior (she's a good girl), quality (she bought a good skirt), taste (that was a good meal), feeling (she felt pretty good), looks (her hair looks good), skill (she is good at math), attitude (she had a good attitude in general), kindness (she was good to him), vastness (she bought a good chunk of land), not being rotten (the raspberries were still good even though they were a few weeks old), comfortableness (she had a good rest), benefit (carrots are good for your eyesight), and many more. We use the word good for just about anything. We use it casually and we use it loosely.

    But when Paul listed "goodness" among the fruits of the Spirit in his letter to the Galatians, he wasn't using the term callously, casually or loosely. He was talking about the biblical goodness a Greek-English Lexicon defines as "positive moral quality." Paul wasn't talking about the kind of good that we use when we say, "What a good meal" or "I feel pretty good." He was talking about the goodness of God, the goodness of the Holy Spirit! This is the goodness that we can only obtain through God! No man is good on his own. (Romans 3:11) No matter how good we try to be or how much we try to achieve righteousness on our own, we are never good enough. (Isaiah 64:6) It is only by the power of the Holy Spirit, the source of God's goodness that we can be good.

    "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

    The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 6: Kindness

    I like synonyms. They often help reveal a fuller definition of certain words. If you go to Dictionary.com, the synonyms for the word "kindness" include benevolence, humanity, generosity, charity, sympathy, compassion, and tenderness. Some people think that kindness is just being nice. And though nicety does play a role in kindness, being nice is not the same as true, biblical kindness. So what is biblical kindness?
    • Biblical kindness is generosity. Being generous to the poor and to others is being kind (Psalm 37:21, Proverbs 14:21, Proverbs 19:6, Proverbs 19:17, 2 Corinthians 9:11). Being benevolent and charitable are very much like being generous. But benevolence covers more the aspect of being generous in immaterial items (actions and words), while charity is most often known as giving actual, physical items (whether it be money or clothes or food or whatever) to the less fortunate.
    • Biblical kindness is also compassion. God shows us His compassion over and over again in His Word. He has compassion on His people so many times. When they deserve punishment, He shows his compassion and is often merciful to them. (Deuteronomy 32:36, 2 Kings 13:23, 2 Chronicles 36:15, Psalm 78:38, Psalm 103:13, Isaiah 54:8). We can be like God when we are compassionate to others.
    • Biblical kindness is tenderness. In Ephesians 4:32, Paul writes, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Right here, we see that kindness and being tender are linked together. But what does it mean to be tenderhearted? It means having a tender heart, a heart that is not tough, a heart that is not cold as stone, a heart that is gentle and merciful, a heart that is pure and kind.
    • Biblical kindness is sympathy. This sympathetic is not a "Oh, poor her/him. I feel bad for him/her," and then move on. This is genuine sympathy, being understanding, not letting the burdens of others simply pass by you, comforting others. 1 Peter 3:8 says, "Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind." Sympathy is being kind, caring, and showing love to others.
    • Biblical kindness is humanity. I thought this was a fitting end to this post on kindness. Humanity really sums kindness up. Humanity and kindness are one and the same. The World English Dictionary defines humanity as "kindness or mercy." 
    So let's seek to be more like God in the area of kindness. Let's be kind, but let's not forget about its synonyms as well (i.e. generosity, compassion, tenderness, sympathy, and humanity). Let's pray that the Spirit would work in us and that the fruit of kindness will be ever present in our lives.

    "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

    The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 5: Joy

    "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

    Our third fruit of the Spirit is joy. As we discover the true meaning of biblical joy that Paul was talking about when he wrote Galatians, we're going to first turn to the Word of God. In the English Standard Version (ESV) of the Bible, the word "joy" is found 172 times. God has a lot to say about it! Let's take a look at a few passages.

    "For you, O Lord, have made me glad by your work; at the works of your hands I sing for joy." Psalm 92:4

    "Shout, and sing for joy, O inhabitant of Zion, for great in your midst is the Holy One of Israel." Isaiah 12:6

    "If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full." John 15:10-11

    Did you catch what was so special about these passages? In every single one, not only is joy mentioned, but the source of biblical joy is revealed. Look back at Psalm 92:4. The reason the Psalmist sings for joy? Because of the works of the Lord! How about Isaiah 12:6? The same reason! The inhabitants of Zion are to sing for joy because the Lord, the Holy One of Israel, is in their midst! Finally, re-read John 15:10-11. This is Jesus talking to His disciples. In John chapter 15, Jesus has encouraged His disciples and challenged them to abide in Him and to obey and follow Him. Now He says, "The reason I told you all these things is that you can have full, true joy! And not just any joy. My joy. The joy that only I can give you."

    The key to biblical joy is this: It is not found in circumstances, in people, in money, or in possessions; the source and key to true joy is only found in the Lord. Once your eyes are removed from the things of the world, you can fixate them on God. And once your eyes are fixated on God, circumstances can't define your joy. Even when you go through difficult times, through persecution and sickness and grief and sorrow, if your eyes are on the Lord, nothing on heaven or on earth can quench your joy.

    "There is a joy which is not given to the ungodly, but to those who love Thee for Thine own sake, whose joy Thou Thyself art. And this is the happy life, to rejoice to Thee, of Thee, for Thee; this it is, and there is no other." - Augustine.

    The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 4: Patience

    Have you ever been in that frustrating, impossible, hair-clawing, teeth-grinding, patience-trying position where all you can do is clench your teeth and half-scream, "Patience is a virtue"? Well, you're not alone. Pretty much every person on this earth has experienced a time when their patience has been tested and they were forced to recite that age-old proverb. Everybody struggles with patience. So this brings us to our next fruit in our spiritual fruit bowl - patience.

    According to Dictionary.com, patience is defined as "quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence." That, in a nutshell, is what being patient is all about. Having a "quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence." Patience is drastically lacking in our society today. Someone cuts off someone in traffic. You can hear the horn honking and stream of obscenities half a dozen blocks away. Someone unknowingly steps in front of someone in the Christian book store lineup. Everyone else in the store turns their heads as an all-out brawl breaks out. Someone gets a trainee in the grocery store checkout line. Everyone else in the lineup watches grimly as that person shows their great lack of patience and, after blowing it, leaves the poor trainee in tears. 

    Our situation is dire. Culture has taught us that it's all about me. I'm number one and I should never even have to exercise patience, because the world should revolve around me. Me, me, I, I, me, I. Nope, no God in that equation. And that's the key to our problem. When we focus on ourselves, we have ten times more of a chance of losing our patience. But when we're focusing on God, we can't help but show a humble, gracious, patient spirit. 

    So when your head is about to blow and you've forgotten to do your morning devotions and you're about to scream the house down, stop, drop and pray. E.M. Bounds once said, "Faith, and hope, and patience and all the strong, beautiful, vital forces of piety are withered and dead in a prayerless life. The life of the individual believer, his personal salvation, and personal Christian graces have their being, bloom, and fruitage in prayer." It's all about prayer. Prayer is the key to a patient life. So let's bring our troubles, frustrations, and worries humbly to the throne of grace and lay them down. Let's train our focus on God, not on ourselves. And let's finally repent of our lack of patience and our abundance of selfishness and prepare to let the Spirit work in us and show His patience through us. 

    The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 3: Self-Control

    "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

    So the Stanley Cup Playoffs are back, and I get another chance to practice self-control. I'll admit it - when it comes to sports, I can get really competitive. Not in a good way, like when you simply care about a sport. No, sometimes I can get really competitive in a bad way. I'll overreact, or lose my cool, get angry, and sometimes forget about controlling my words. And then suddenly an epiphany usually happens to strike me just in the nick of time -- it's just a game. Those words seem to echo in my head and I'll stop mid-angry word, or mid-rant, or mid-frustration. It's just a game.

    When it comes to me being too competitive, I completely recognize that it's my sin. It's my lack of self-control. So what exactly is self-control?

    Self-control is having control over your desires and senses, over your words, over your thoughts, and over your actions. Exercising self-control means restraining yourself from getting angry. It means refusing to say those nasty words, or maintaining your cool even after something really frustrating happens. It means keeping your emotions in check. A way to test if you have self-control is this:
    • Do I have control over my emotions? Am I bursting into tears at the slightest chance or losing my temper at the drop of a pin? I'm not saying that getting angry or crying is sinful in all cases or that if you ever cry or get angry it means that you don't have self-control; I'm simply saying that we can't let our emotions run rampant. We have to control them, and not let them control us.
    • Do I have control over my words? When a thought comes into my mind, do I blurt it out immediately? If an angry word, insensitive word, or unkind word appears in my head, do I let it roll off my tongue, or do I immediately repent of it and push it away?
    • Do I have control over my desires and senses? If I want something, do I get it? If I crave chocolate, do I eat chocolate? If I want to watch television instead of reading my Bible, do I give into my desires and act upon them? Mom and I were talking about this last week. When we're gratifying our senses and giving into the desires of the flesh, we're committing sensuality. We're showing that we don't have self-control over our desires and senses.
    • Do I have control over my thoughts? Most of the time, I can't prevent a sinful thought from popping into my mind, but do I dwell upon that thought? Or do I repent of it and move on? If an angry, hurtful, or impure thought appears in my head, do I nurture it and let it grow and continue thinking about it? Do I let my thoughts control me, or do I control what I think about?
    • Do I have control over my actions? If I feel like acting upon a selfish want, do I do it? If I'm angry at someone, do I hit them? Do I let my actions rule over me, or do I exercise self-control?
    "For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control." 2 Timothy 1:7

      The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 2: Why Are They Called the Fruit of the SPIRIT?

      Before we dive into the first "fruit" in our spiritual fruit bowl, I want to cover why these aspects of a Christian life are called "the fruit of the Spirit." What's so special about the Spirit? Last week, we understood that the fruit of the Spirit is actions that must be present in a Christian's life. By why must they be present?

      When you see apples on an apple tree, what does it show? It demonstrates that the tree is alive. In the same way, when you see love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control in a Christian's life, it proves that the Spirit is in them, producing fruit, and that the Christian is alive in Christ. In the same vein, if you don't see the fruit of the Spirit in a "Christian's", or non-Christians,' life, it's sadly obvious that they do not have the Spirit in them.

      Before we take a deeper look into each of the fruits of the Spirit, let's take a time to examine ourselves and make sure that we first have the Spirit inside of us. Then, and only then, can we start working on bearing fruit.

      "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

      The Spiritual Fruit Bowl: Understanding the Fruit of the Spirit -- Part 1: An Overview


      What is the fruit of the Spirit? Are they ghostly pieces of fruit with magical powers? Are they apples and oranges that are "holy"? When you hear "fruit of the Spirit," what comes to your mind?

      When Paul wrote his letter to the Galatians, he wasn't talking about ghost fruit. No, he was talking about something much different.

      "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control, against such things there is no law." Galatians 5:22-23

      The fruit of the Spirit isn't actual fruit. It's actions. Being loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and showing self-control. Each of these attributes must be deeply and clearly integrated in a Christian's life.

      This series will find us covering each of the 9 fruits of the Spirits, seeking to understand them better. What is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control according to the Bible? You may be surprised to know that God has a lot to say about each of these "fruits" that a Christian must have present in his/her life.

      So welcome to the spiritual fruit bowl, a series on understanding the fruit of the Spirit.

      Does That Perfect Insult Make You Feel Good?

      We were sitting in a restaurant, enjoying a family lunch. Travis had been bugging me all day. I had carefully restrained myself up to this point. Then it happened. The perfect set-up to the perfect insult. I had a choice. The perfect insult was there, so close I could touch it. But should I? Should I grab that insult while it was still open and hurl it at my brother, or should I restrain? Like any big sister, you'll never guess what I did. The perfect insult was hurled.

      You've been there. I've been there. A zinger. The perfect insult that makes you feel good for about a split-second, before you feel the regret. But by then, it's too late. The words are gone. They've been spoken. There's no taking back what you said.

      What does Paul say about the perfect zinger? Well, nothing specifically, but he talks about something that certainly applies to it: "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law." (Galatians 5:22-23)

      Paul tells us that the fruit of the Spirit includes patience and self-control. So when the perfect insult that may seem so perfect presents itself, remember that Paul did not write: "And the fruit of the Spirit is patience and self-control, EXCEPT when you've got the chance at the perfect zinger. In that case, go for it!" No, we need to exercise patience and self-control even especially when it seems the hardest. So, let's remember that when all is said and done, that perfect insult really doesn't make you feel so good.